Breaking free of other people’s opinions and taking ownership of your life.
First of all, everyone has an opinion – and just because they have one, doesn’t mean it’s of value or in alignment with your beliefs. In order to live a happy and fulfilling life, you must first learn to let go. It is incredibly hard to achieve a life of success and satisfaction when you are continuously listening and absorbing the (sometimes toxic) opinions of others. Regardless of their love for you, every opinion, thought, or idea that someone shares with you – whether it be positive or negative, from a friend, colleague or a family member, is directly related to THEIR core beliefs and THEIR wellbeing – not yours. What people don’t realise it that their thoughts, actions and opinions can have a direct impact on you, as each individual interprets things differently. Subconsciously, this can be destructive. This is YOUR LIFE. Your opinions and your values are who you are – this is what keeps you in alignment. Don’t allow someone else’s opinions drag you down. Sorry to sound blunt – but they don’t care about your opinions or your emotional wellbeing, they care about the point that they are trying to prove. Due to the lack of interest people have in your life on an emotional level, is it not clear that their opinions are of very little value? I hope that this helps you gain clarity into understanding that listening to them is invaluable. Master the art of listening but don’t own it. Learn to let opinions pass straight through you – you will be happier for it, I promise.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that will most frighten us. We ask ourselves – Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve this world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberate others – Marianne Williamson
Are Other People’s Opinions Limiting Your Opportunities?
This is YOUR life – you only have once shot at it (earth side) and you have choices to make. You choose your happiness, your job, where you live and the people that you hang around. Are you making the right choices? Or are you limiting the amount of opportunities potentially available to you?
It is true, that when you constantly listen and absorb the feelings, emotions and opinions of others that it can be draining – which can be detrimental to achieving a satisfying life. Perhaps you might not even notice that it is happening or that this is holding you back – but on a subconscious level, it is.
Throughout my life I have been known to be “the rock” – the stable one that was always consistent and a good listener. I was the friend and family member that everyone felt safe in confiding in, or would go to and offload their own personal shit. Always approachable, easy to talk to and continually offering good advice. But you know what? It was draining! It wasn’t until I moved interstate and removed myself from it all that I realised how much it has held me back over the years. Everything, every human, animal, plant and tree has a frequency, a vibration – and like attracts like. It is much easier for our vibration to meet a lower frequency, than it is to have enough energy charged up to raise our frequency above the negativity. And you know what? Your emotions and your frequency matter more than the emotions of others when it comes to your decisions and your wellbeing.
I love this example by a good friend of mine, Wiehann de Klerk. He writes:
“In case of an emergency in a plane, what do you do? You put your oxygen mask on first, and then you help those next to you. How can you help others live lives of adventure if you do not live a life of adventure yourself? How can you be happy if you do not consider your emotions? How can you make the right choices for you, if you do not consider yourself? Consider having the ability to buy the emotions of others. No one would buy the emotions of others. It makes no sense. Many can’t even control, never the less, master their own emotions. If you can’t manage your own life, why would you manage the lives of others? You won’t because if you do, you are not leading by example. First, consider your own emotions about yourself, then consider the emotions of others about you.” –Wiehann de Klerk
Letting Go Of The Opinions Of Others: What I have discovered
Being me is a sense of understanding myself, knowing that I am in alignment with my core beliefs, values and purpose. No longer living in fear of other people’s opinions, wanting acceptance or owning others peoples bullshit. Knowing that I don’t have to be “impressive” I don’t have to agree with their opinions, and I don’t have to prove a point in order to be loved or accepted is the biggest realisation – and probably one of the hardest to let go of.
“So maybe ask yourself is there something you could put yourself under a bit of pressure to get some personal breakthroughs – are there things that you are putting off because you don’t think you can do it? Because there is some BS or perceived legitimate excuse? (I’m too young, too tired, not smart enough, not rich enough, don’t have enough time, don’t know how..etc)
Maybe you should try pushing yourself to speak publically somehow, especially if you are shy – just volunteer – join a networking group and ask to give a presentation – or ask us – get up on our stage and share your story of building and buying websites with all of our sstudents. I guarantee that you will get both a buzz and some awesome lessons out of it.
Just a thought.. and a little challenge too maybe!” – Matt Raad
What are your thoughts?
Do you feel like you are being held back by the opinions of others? Do you believe that you are reaching your full potential and living a happy, fulfilling and rewarding life?
Please feel free to leave a comment below – I’d love to hear your thoughts on the topic!
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